"The moment the word 'why' crosses your lips, you are doing theology."
—When Life & Beliefs Collide                

Thursday, April 17, 2014

Carolyn Update #8

This AM got off to a rocky start. CCJ awoke in considerable pain. During the night I check with her several times to make sure she is comfortable. All was well until the sun came up and suddenly the pain got out ahead of us. It took some time for the meds to work their magic, but by late morning the pain was under control. This was a reminder to both of us that recovery is a slow process.

Please keep CCJ in prayer.


Tuesday, April 15, 2014

Carolyn Update #7

The first full day home has been quiet. CCJ has dozed off and on most of the day except to walk around the apartment (including stairs) and doing her breathing exercises. She is eating light meals and drinking her favorite beverage — Sprite Zero. Our little basement apartment came with a recliner and that has proven to be a real blessing. It allows CCJ to stretch out but without getting flat on her back. Her pain has been manageable, although if she makes one wrong move, it can be intense.

Grateful for friends,


Monday, April 14, 2014

Carolyn Update # 6

Much to our surprise, the doctor is sending Carolyn home today. They removed her chest tube and her follow-up x-rays were good so they are discharging her. She has a big, somewhat loopy, smile on her face. We are grateful.

She's off to the Hobbit Hole...

Carolyn Update # 5

More progress!
Carolyn continues to improve. The big event today was the removal of the chest tube. It was painful but Carolyn came through it like the warrior she is. If follow up x-rays are okay, the doctor may allow her to come home today. We're hopeful.

As always, feel free to leave encouraging notes here for Carolyn! Hopefully she'll be back in her beloved Hobbit Hole soon.

Sunday, April 13, 2014

Carolyn Update # 4

I just received an update:
Carolyn continues to recover well. She is walking the hallways - doing even more than the doctor ordered. Today for the first time she had not one but thee real meals. It looks like she will be in the hospital for an additional day. The original plan was to go home Monday, now Tuesday is more likely. Her lung needs to heal a bit more before sending her home.

Grateful for your love and support.


Saturday, April 12, 2014

Carolyn Update # 3

More from Carolyn's husband:
Carolyn slept well last night. Before I left she spent an hour sitting in a chair. This morning she walked the hospital hallway twice and will do that twice more this afternoon. The pain is present but manageable. The doctors and nurses say she is progressing very well. Carolyn felt good enough to make fun of her beloved husband. Please keep praying for continued good progress.

Feel free to leave encouraging comments here. I'm sure Carolyn will love to read them when she feels up to it! 

Friday, April 11, 2014

Carolyn Update # 2

Here's another update:
CCJ is out of surgery and awake -- but still groggy. The doctor confirmed that it was cancer but was confident she got all of it. Now for the road to recovery.
Thanks for the prayers. FAJ

Carolyn Update # 1

Carolyn's husband, Frank, has been in touch today about how Carolyn is doing. Here's what he's asked me to share:
Carolyn went into surgery around 8 AM. My last words to her was to remind her that she is an Ezer-warrior. I was honored to see her off to the front lines.
Carolyn is now out of surgery. The surgeon said all went well and confirmed it was cancer. She will be out of recovery in the next two hours. Thanks for all the prayers.

Wednesday, April 9, 2014

Life is like a box of chocolates

In my mind’s eye, I can vividly see Forrest Gump sitting on the park bench saying to his unsuspecting bench-mate:  "My mama always said, 'Life is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you're gonna get.'"

Just as this year's harsh winter storms were finally subsiding and spring loomed on the horizon, just as our house in Massachusetts finally sold ending eight long months of living in separate states, just as we were finally settling into the Hobbit Hole in Pennsylvania and I was finally getting ready to hunker down and finish my next book ... Frank and I were blindsided when doctors diagnosed me with Stage 1 lung cancer.

Forrest Gump was right. “You never know what you’re gonna get.”

I'm scheduled for major surgery this Friday, April 11, to remove the cancer. I'll be in the hospital for four days and sidelined for four to six weeks. By God's grace, we caught it early and so the prognosis is good. And I'm so thankful to be here with Frank, my cousin Karen, superb doctors, a wonderfully supportive seminary community, and for so many incredible friends who are pulling for me long distance. You'll never know how much your words of encouragement and prayer support mean to me.

Please pray for both of us and that the ezer in me will be strong as we engage this battle. As one of my close ezer-friends reminded me, "You have to be what you've been telling all of us we are."

My good friend, Amy Lauger, will post updates here while I'm away.  I'm already looking forward to coming back!

Tuesday, April 1, 2014

Help is on the way!

One reason emotionally destructive marriages are able to exist and fester within in the Body of Christ is the fact that people who can intervene—pastors, elders, church leaders, etc.—don't know what to do.

Wednesday, April 2 (that's tomorrow!), from 1-2:00pm/ET, RBC ministries is offering a live webinar with experts on the subject. This is a strategic opportunity to raise awareness and learn about how to deal with this ongoing problem that is causing enormous distress, suffering, and harm to women (and no doubt some men as well) who find themselves in an emotionally destructive relationship.

To register for the webinar go to: http://bit.ly/Pdb7UX

IMPORTANT NOTE! The webinar will be available afterward it airs to anyone who pre-registers. But you have to pre-register to have access. 
And please forward the link to your pastors and other church leaders.

If you're caught in an emotionally destructive marriage or wanting to help someone who is, you will also want to be aware of Leslie Vernick's new book, The Emotionally Destructive Marriage: How to Find Your voice & Reclaim Your Hope which
". . . blows the lid off of the silence surrounding this serious epidemic in the church. It is packed with the kind of solid practical wisdom and bracing straight talk women need to face reality and engage safely the crisis in their marriage. Every Christian leader should read this eye-opening corrective to damaging advice often coming from the church to women in abusive marriages. Women who are at the end of their rope will find this book to be an invaluable lifeline."
—Carolyn Custis James